We hear a lot about making memories these days. Making memories has become a hook for selling everything from lavish birthday parties to cruises. In fact, memories are important. Good and bad, memories tell the story of our lives, in some measure giving us a sense of who we are. Treasured holiday memories grow not …
It may surprise you to learn that neuroscience has a lot to say about the issues that bring couples to therapy. For instance, it can tell you why your spouse reacts the way he or she does. It is as simple as the fight, flight, freeze response in the brain. Which, of course, is not …
COUPLES THERAPY. The very words can strike fear in the heart of a struggling couple. Too often it is a last resort. Nothing has worked to make your relationship better, so you start couples counseling with little hope and the thought that if things don’t work out at least you’ll be able to say you …
When I meet couples for marriage counseling at my office in Salisbury, North Carolina, they are usually uncertain and apprehensive. At least one of them probably doesn’t want to be there. One partner may think everything is fine while the other is all but ready to file for divorce. “Tom and Tina, so good to …
“Normal day let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you and hold you before you depart. Let me not pass you by in search of some rare and perfect tomorrow…for one day I shall dig my nails into the earth, or bury my face in the pillow, …
This morning tragedy and death were on the front page of both of newspapers I normally read. Not in some distant war zone, but right here in the town where I live. Not the death of evildoers or losers, but of innocents, the brightest and the best. A family of four – mother, father, son, …
You’ve heard it ad nauseum – the benefit of regular exercise. It promises weight loss and increased energy. It is supposed to lift your mood and guarantee a longer life. It’s almost magic. It’s not magic Regular moderate exercise has been part of my life for decades. I make a habit of walking for an …
Come November family gatherings are as inevitable as falling leaves. Airports and highways jammed with travelers heading home for the holidays are clear evidence of the human longing for attachment and connection. Yet, it’s an axiom of modern culture that these gatherings are often more endured than enjoyed, a testimony to widespread SDD – Seasonal …
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What do …an adorable baby, …a teen with attitude, …an exhausted working parent …and a fragile nursing home resident have in common? To start with they are all human. And like all of us they have deep longings for love, security, understanding, significance and belonging. These basic emotional needs form the foundation of relationships across …
Warning. Social media may be hazardous to your health. The health of your marriage that is. Start with what Facebook does so well. Connecting you to old friends. When those old friends are ex-girlfriends or boyfriends, high school sweethearts or college heart throbs – reconnecting may be the first step toward a marital crisis. Ditto …
