Coping with Uncertainty

Uncertain times. Uncertain, ambiguous, undetermined, indefinite, unpredictable, unknown, uncertain. Uncertain is the word I seem to hear most often these days from the news to Sunday’s sermons, to the clients in my office. Or the clients not in my office because of—uncertainty. Is it safe, will I be exposed to something, what if…? Should I… Read more »

Walking Mindfully

It’s 8 a.m. Time to take our resident terrier mix out for her morning constitutional. I suit up for the 25-degree temperature while Sparkle jumps up and down and runs around in circles, telling me in no uncertain terms to hurry up. I zip myself into my navy multi-pocketed puffy coat, stash house keys and… Read more »

Depression: Understanding its Presence

Depression is not “all in your head.” While depression is medically characterized as a chemical imbalance in the brain, it affects your body as well as your thoughts and your feelings, in fact your whole life.   Depression is more than moodiness. While everyone has their down days, clinical depression goes beyond a blue mood… Read more »

Silencing Your Inner Critic

If you are constantly worried about what other people think of you, no doubt you have a serious inner critic. Someone who speaks in the familiar voice of a disapproving parent, teacher or spouse. Someone who says things like: “Now why did you do THAT?” “You did WHAT?” “Can’t you ever get it right?” “You… Read more »

Beware the Holiday Landmines

Daily news reports of body counts and terror create in us a longing for the holidays to bring us cheer. We ache for moments of happiness, meaningful family time, celebration, fun. We yearn for the reality of “peace on earth and good will among men.” We are drawn to stories of love and generosity that… Read more »

For Better For Worse

This week my husband, Mike and I will celebrate (gasp!) 49 years of marriage. We met when I was a freshman and he a junior in college. By Christmas break, we were engaged. We married 18 months later after Mike graduated. I took a year off, or so I thought, to accommodate his post-graduate plans…. Read more »

Reflections On Mother’s Day

Another Mother’s Day has come and gone. It is a day often fraught with emotion – hope and disappointment, joy and sadness, pride, anger, guilt, gratitude are among the feelings that this annual ritual evokes. Why is this day so loaded with feelings? Sheer numbers are part of the reason. According to the census bureau,… Read more »

A False Spring?

Record lows in January, followed by record highs in February. Out for my morning walk, the air feels soft and spring-like. A chorus of birds attests to it, chattering, chirping, singing. It doesn’t look like spring. The grass is brown, trees are bare. But wait, the smallest limbs have lacy outlines, telltale signs of swollen… Read more »

Marriage Book Recommendations

Clients often ask me if I can recommend a good book on marriage and there are many. The following are a few of my favorites. I am especially partial to Sue Johnson’s books. Click the links to read the Amazon summary and find other books by the same authors: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage… Read more »

Trauma in Real Life

When you find yourself ambushed by anxiety or laid low by depression that seems to have no cause or cure, an unprocessed trauma is often to blame. The obvious traumas of wars, fires, floods, school shootings, and terror attacks are all realities of 21st-century life. Yet without experiencing any of these, you may still be… Read more »